“All while Elsie was getting medical attention, Lottie was learning what being a little girl was all about it,” explained Miller, a 34-year-old stay-at-home mom. “She was learning to love and be loved, and for her that was a very foreign and difficult process.” 

Yet Lottie wasn’t the only one being challenged. Miller herself ― despite being an experienced biological and foster mother ― wondered whether she and Christian, a paramedic and National Guardsmen, had unintentionally hurt their biological children by bringing Elsie and Lottie into the fold. 

That was certainly the opinion of the “outspokens” when the Millers had announced their double adoption. “It’s selfish to adopt children with so many needs,” they had intimated. “Think of all you’re taking from your real kids.”