Boy, born August 1998
Gene is described as eager and easygoing.
From someone who met him: To really ‘get access’ to Gene, you need to try hard. Some days he’s living in his own world and it’s hard to ‘reach’ him. But it’s worth the effort. I met Gene in the summer, and the other children in the group were all trying to get my attention, Gene wouldn’t I tried to give some attention to every child in the group, so also to Gene. It took a while before I could get him out of his own world. I grabbed his hand and just stroke his fingers one at a time. He would look at his fingers, and after doing that for minutes, he would finally look at me. He looked who was stroking his hand.
Still he didn’t allow me to touch him more than just stroking his hand. Next day I was wondering if he would still remember me and if I could touch his hand again. I didn’t need to ask myself that question, because as soon as I walked in, he came up to me, reaching me his hand. I knew I broke through his wall that kept him safe in his own world. It still took me a while to really ‘open him up’. In November I visited his group again, and again it took me a while to ‘reach’ him. But as I was tickling one of the other boys in his group, he came closer. So I grabbed his hand, to pull him on my lap, next to the other boy, and I tickled him. What happened was amazing! He started to laugh! He laughed out loud, the first time I heard him do that. And he couldn’t stop anymore. His laugh was so contagious and so wonderful to hear it. It brought tears to my eyes. He was so open and he wanted me to tickle him more. Next day I could hardly touch him again, which was hard for me, because I wanted to get him out of his own world again. But I found out that I should not lose hope, because it depends on his mood if he will let you touch him. Another day I could tickle him again and he laughed again. This boy just needs more stimulation to stay out of his own world. Because of the lack of stimulation he normally just sits on the ground and rock back and forth. But he is able to walk, to run around and play games. He can have fun and interact with other children. It just takes a little more. This boy is already in the institute for a long time, and this is the price he paid for it.
He desperately needs a family — He needs a family committed to him before his 16th birthday, otherwise he’ll be condemned to institution life forever.
Married couples only, large families welcome.