NICK and KADE for the Cogan family — FL
Keely and Nick began discussing adoption when they were first married and starting their family. They were both drawn to opening their family to children and talked about fostering children in need as well as domestic adoption. Nick was finishing his schooling at the time and they decided that they needed to wait until they were in a more permanent position. In the meantime they had three children and moved multiple times. In 2005 Nick found a permanent, tenure-track position at Florida State University. they began discussing adoption again and Keely found, by chance, the local community of adopted Asian children. One of her good friends had adopted two girls and were in the middle of adopting a third, older child. They watched this process and were amazed at this family. They spent a lot of time discussing this with their children and began the process of adoption through Russia since Nick’s family background is Russian. They had done their homestudy when Russia closed the adoptions so they put their plans on hold. They started again about 6 months later and had not gotten far when they closed the adoptions again. They took this as an indication that they were NOT meant to adopt through Russia!
They began looking at China and things went very smoothly. They adopted their 9 year old girl last September and it has been one of the most amazing journeys of their family. It has gone very well and has only drawn them further towards blending their family. There are several reasons why they are going back to adopt. Their family is already conspicuous, but their adopted daughter is ‘more’ conspicuous both because she is Chinese and because of her special needs. Their family would have more balance and would be more integrated by adopting again. Additionally, their children are even more aware of the impact that adoption has on the children they bring home than they were before (Karwen has the most unique perspective or us all). Each and every one of them feels strongly that their family would be completed and that the impact on the little boys that they are adopting would be unimaginable.
This brings us to the children that they are adopting. There are two boys aged 9 and 5, both with special needs. The older has mild CP and has recently been moved into an institute for older children that has a questionable reputation. they first saw his file when they were adopting their daughter. There was a month long period when they did not think she would come home with them, and his file was the one they were going to move forward on. The younger boy is diagnosed with Arthrogryposis, which is the same diagnosis as their adopted daughter. They feel that bringing a child younger than all their children is an important part of the balance of their family.
They quite proud of their family. They homeschool and do many, many things together- from travels, to games, to chores. The most important quality that they impart on their children is teamwork. It is never Mom and Dad against the kids with respect to chores, but ALWAYS the family against the chores. The kids are ALWAYS on the same side.
1/30/14—HOMESTUDY in PROCESS
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